Creation started with a big bang, not a big hug: violence is part of the pattern. The damage of violence is minimized when it is distributed throughout a system rather than centralized into the hands of a few powerful people and their minions. If you live a life without violence you are living in an illusion, outsourcing your conflict to unseen powers and detonating it in areas beyond your living space. Most of the southern hemisphere is receiving the outsourced violence to supply what you need for the clean, technological, peaceful spaces of your existence. The poor zone into the ghettos of your city are taking those blows for you, as are the economically marginalized who fill your prisons. The invisible privilege of your technocratic, one-sided peacefulness is an act of violence. Your peace-medallion bling is sparkling with blood diamonds. Your carry pillaged metals in your phone from devastated African lands and communities. Your notions of peaceful settlement and development are delusions peppered with bullet holes and spears.
Violence exists and it must be carefully structured within rituals governed by the patterns of creation and the laws of sustainable cultures derived from those patterns. Violence employed in these highly interdependent and controlled frameworks serves to bring spirit into balance and hold in check the shadow of the I-am-greater-than-deception. Every organism in existence does violence, and benefits from it in reciprocal relationships.
Duck hunting results in duck death. Yam digging results in the death of equally sentient plants... Domesticated beings are stripped of this reality and become passive recipients of violence - either its benefits or its cruel impacts. They devolve as a result.
Crack In Certainty Processes
most of these processes work both online and offline
Any of the 108 Intimacy Experiment Questions (a few of which are listed here).
Complete Incomplete Emotions (role play).
Please tell me what you are starving for? What are you hidden unmet needs?
Boast to the other person about your successes (or your failures).
I cannot commit to you because __________. I need you in my Village because ___________. (Oroboros)
Write down 3 important questions you have. Choose one of them. Tell three people your question. Have them ask you your own question. Answer them according to their matrix. Speak into them according to what they can hear and hold.
Please navigate me to the center of the Labyrinth with you. Tell me how I resist this. Tell me my blocks or what gets in the way.
Do Queenmaking / Kingmaking with the person across from you. Don’t get off it no matter what. Tell them what their resistance is to being fabulous. They give you feedback and coaching about how you did.
Please tell me to what degree you are initiated into adulthood. What do you need next?
What are you most afraid of learning about yourself?
Potential / Diagnosis / Remedy. Where are you in your 3 Phase Healing process?
Be Radically Honest about your experiences and feelings while being an Edgeworker.
What are all the ways that I am avoiding intimacy right now?
Push Shoulders standing in pairs to go into anger. Stop. What you are angry about is what you care about. Now Push Shoulders and say what you care about out loud. Help each other write down what each said. Now sit in groups of three. Say the fears you have that stop you from making what you care about the center of your life. Now two people write down experiments in the third person's Beep! Book to transform the fear.
Fear Of Showing Up: Here are all the ways I am afraid of showing up right now. Please tell me why I am afraid of showing up right now.
In what ways are you feeding each of your 5 Bodies?
In what ways are you starving each of your 5 Bodies?
Your Biggest Lie: Please reveal the lie that you are telling yourself in your life right now.
Give a Handshake or Hug with Feedback and Coaching.
Linear And Nonlinear / one-minute presentations with Rapid Learning Feedback and Coaching.
Safespace Initiation: “What I would do if I experienced myself as a mountain 1000% trust.” (Group of 3, 10 min/person)